Shyness Kills Nice Guys With Women
I was talking to a friend of mine who sees himself as a “nice guy”, and he had a bit of a confusion about women, nice guys and confidence.
The thing he didn’t understand is why do confidence and shyness matter so much to women. He’d hear guys claim that women hate guys without confidence.
What I told him is that yes, this is absolutely true.
It is all about the shyness. I have a really shocking revelation to you. Women are literally blind to male shyness. I mean between two guys who are identical, except one is shy, the shy one will get as much as ten times worse results with women.
1) Women don’t realize you can be shy too…
Are there women who genuinely dislike shyness in men? Sure, there are women like that. But with most women, its not the shyness they mind. What they mind is how a guy acts when he is shy.
When you are shy, you actually end up acting in ways she misinterprets as being arrogant, jerk-like and cold. She literally doesn’t know its possible for a man to be shy around her. She’s too busy worrying about her own insecurities. So when you don’t ask her out due to shyness, she blames herself, never even assuming you might be shy.
2) Nice guys make the natural order of mating fail
Yes, just like animals, we too have a mating ritual. This ritual requires that males do certain things, and women do others. Shyness screws up this ritual on both sides, but mostly the male side.
This ritual presumes that males show sexual interest in females. Nice guys however don’t do this due to shyness or lack of confidence.
This is what nice guys or shy guys fail to do. They simply don’t show interest! Shy guys might have dozens of interested girls in their life, but they never showed direct interest in those girls, so the girls never responded back.
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