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I have a question for you.

Can you relate to this scenario: you type a message to a woman on an online dating site and wait and wait for a response…only to never hear from her?

Don’t be discouraged. A lot of guys get no responses online. I know a good looking guy who meets attractive women in real life all the time and has no problem dating as many women he wants. He went online just to try it out and he got NO responses.

So here’s the thing, let’s say you send out 10 messages and you only get 1 response, or worse yet, none. Some of you guys probably get discouraged over this type of thing. I know because I used to be the same way. Actually I would even get upset if I got 3 or 4 messages back, which is actually really good. Then I started to think about things from a different perspective.

How many women can I really meet in a week? I can easily send out 10 messages in an hour. That includes reading the woman’s whole profile (mini novel writers not included…you know who they are) and giving some thought to what’s interesting or unique about her. Then tailoring a good message with a few statements and questions, and maybe even a little humor in there.

Now I know if I was sending the same pre formulated email to each woman online I could send 3 or 4 times that amount in an hour. I don’t advise this though for reasons I will go into in another article.

So let’s say out of those 10 emails I sent I get 4 responses back. I now begin to exchange emails with these women over the next few days. In the course of the emails one of these women stops responding, which can often happen for a variety of reasons I discuss in other articles. That leaves three, and I ask all of those three for their phone number after 4-5 messages back and forth. Two of them give it to me and one refuses. After talking on the phone I set up dates with both women. I now have two dates for next week. One of them flakes on the meet, but the other shows up, we like each other, and set up another date.

Notice anything about the above sequence of events? It’s only been about a week and I have one new woman I’m dating. Now, I didn’t even mention the other 10 messages I sent the next night or the fact that I may already be dating someone I met online. I didn’t mention that I could do this again next week. If you notice, before you know it you have way too little time to deal with the amount of responses and dates you’re getting.

Hopefully you have other interests besides dating and wouldn’t want all your time consumed by it. Believe me, that could easily occur if you’re profile and pictures are really good, and you’re sending the right kind of messages. I know it’s a high quality problem, but it’s a problem none the less.

What’s my point here? Simply a nice way to look at a situation that could get you down. Once you realize you would have no life if all the women you were messaging were responding, you can more easily let the “rejections” go and focus on enjoying other aspects of your life, including the women that ARE responding.

For ideas on how to get more responses to your messages and eventually get more dates than you can handle have a look at Michael Kendricks other articles and services on Get More Dates Online.

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