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Your goal when meeting women is to immediately stand out from other guys. Most men appear either boring, weird, or just plain average to a woman and unfortunately that is not what attracts them. Some guys seem to take the whole “standing out” thing too far and they will dress outlandishly or try and talk about strange topics to prove they are different. This is a mistake.

But the truth is that standing out is not about putting on leather pants and doing magic tricks for women. These are the methods of pickup artists who don’t know what they are doing and will only make you seem foolish. Here is what you need to express to a woman when you first meet her.

1. Be passionate about something

Having a passion and being able to talk about it properly is more attractive than money, age, looks or anything else you think women want. Of course some women care about your income/social status/etc but most women are not affected by this as much as a confident man who has something he feels passionate about. Ambition is the key ingredient. Women would rather be with a man who has something more important in his life than her. Strange but true. You will never have the respect of a woman if you set aside your purpose for her.

When you meet her you need to be able to talk about these things enthusiastically. Whatever you are passionate about should be spoken of without shame or any hesitance. Talk as if you assume the whole world feels the same way you do. People respect absolute conviction, even if they don’t necessarily share the same feelings. Do NOT make excuses for your interests. That’s what I call value-seeking and a woman will never be attracted to a value-seeking man. Your passions are the very thing that will make a woman respect and feel attraction for you, regardless of what they are. Just make sure you take pride in them and show it.

Bruce spent over 7 years studying attraction and applying what he learned in the real world. He now shows men from all ages and walks of life how to meet and date women. Sign up for his free crash-course attraction video or check out his Real World Attraction blog for more information.

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In part one I told you about what normally happens when you are getting rejected, and how to deal with it.

The good news is, you can reverse the situation, but as I also said, it is hard work.

Before you get started, understand one very important notion: attraction is NOT a choice!

Attraction is a series of subconscious responses. Even if you were to ask a girl what it is she finds attractive, chances are she won’t be able to tell you the exact things that trigger those intense feelings in her.

For instance, a girl might say she likes tall guys. However, it isn’t the fact that the guy is tall that attracts her, its the way she FEELS when around tall guys that attracts her!

Who knows why she feels this way. She could associate a man being tall with all sorts of things.

The only thing that matters is she actually FEELS that way.

This is important. If you can trigger those feelings, you can get her attracted to you.

The first thing you need to understand is why she rejected you in the first place. If she told you she wasn’t interested, it means you did something wrong.

And I’m willing to bet, the wrong thing you did was – you did NOT find out what feelings she needs to experience to become attracted to you!

Do not fall in the trap that attraction only has to do with looks. For women, attraction is a very emotional thing. Do looks play a part? Sure. But emotions play a bigger part, so even if you’re not her physical type, if you can play on her emotions, you can get her.

And don’t forget the most important thing when turning rejection into attraction – FUN!

Guys who are fun to be around are naturally attractive. When you’re with a girl, you might be too nervous or serious to have her experience fun with you. So lighten up! Try and relax and have a good time with the girl you like.

Whenever you have a fun with a girl, her feelings about you will begin to change.

And when this happens, you want to focus on making her feel the things she needs to become attracted.

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Part one of this article focused on how men normally deal with male competition, and why it ends so poorly.

What is the right way to handle this situation then?

The key to dealing with other men moving in on your girl is LEADERSHIP. The ability to take control of the situation in a way that is not overbearing, needy, or insecure.

Doing things as simple as…

*Befriending the guy

*Taking control of the conversation

*Being more interesting than the guy

*Making the girl laugh

The key to all of this is that you want to take CONTROL of the interaction. From there you can direct it.

Women respond very well to men who take the lead.

So even if your “competition” is better looking, younger, richer, (or whatever) than you – it doesn’t matter! Because in the end, YOU’RE the one the girl will follow.

Keep in mind that the ability to build your social status, to help others have a good time, to be more fun, funny, and interesting than the next guy – these are all aspects of control.

These facets of your personality will give you the power to lead the social dynamic of any group you choose.

And when YOU are the leader, guess what?

THERE IS NO COMPETITION.

If there is another guy around you, he’s a follower. Women are drawn to the guys in charge. It’s that simple!

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Almost any guy is going to want to know – how do I attract women?

Let’s face it – we’re not all blessed with the good looks of people like Brad Pitt. Some of us are just average looking guys. Others are below average looking. Heck – even GOOD LOOKING guys can have trouble attracting women!

So what does that mean for all of us who want to get a woman all hot-and-bothered? Well, the logical conclusion is this:

Attraction cannot depend on what you look like!

Obsessing over your looks (or lack of them) is a sure-fire way to take yourself out of the attraction game before things have even gotten started. Understand that you need to take care of yourself and tailor your appearance as well as you possibly can. But short of extensive and painful plastic surgery, you can’t change what you look like.

So if you can’t change it – deal with it!

Luckily, there’s more to attraction than just your physical features. Accept that you look like the way you are, and deal with the things you CAN change, and actually have control over.

See, the “attraction equation” is more than just about being a good looking guy. It’s about your attitude, your intellect, and your social skills and status.

1. Attitude Is Everything

Having the right attitude is essential to generating attraction. Confidence is key, here. Being secure in who you are and what you’re after is a great way to show people that you’re someone they will want to meet and hang out with.

And with the right attitude, your body language and non-verbal communication will naturally broadcast to those around you that you are an attractive person.

2. Try having intelligent conversations

Any attraction that happens between a man and a woman is going to rely on conversation at some point. What you say, and how, is going to lead people towards the emotion you want them to feel. Plus, if you can lead a good conversation, people will find you captivating.

You can go about this in two different ways: by asking questions and listening intently to the answers, or by storytelling.

Stories are the best way to make people experience emotion. Everyone loves stories, and if you have good ones to tell, people will love talking to you.

3. Master Your Social Skills

Being attractive is about interacting with people in the right way. You need to be fun, entertaining, and a good conversationalist.

You also have to know what’s appropriate in certain social situations. Being loud and boisterous at a fancy dinner party may not be a good thing to do. Always be aware of the environment you’re in and act accordingly.

Be laid back, and try not to take things too seriously. Getting insulted or frustrated when things aren’t going as you planned is a sure fire way to alienate the people you’re trying to attract. Allow yourself room to mess up if necessary, and keep from being insulting or rude.

But most of all – have fun! The best way to be social and attract people to you is to have a good time. People love having a good time! In fact, they will seek you out if you can be the source of their fun.

4. Cultivate A High Social Status

More than anything else, having a high social status will attract more people to you than you know what to do with. And social status doesn’t have to have anything to do with how much money you make or how good looking you are. In fact, social status can be completely manufactured!

By being the life of the party, or dominating the conversation, you can show people you’re someone who demands attention. By being funny or witty, intelligent, commanding, and confident, people will naturally defer to you.

If you can pull this off, you’ll be able to parlay it into a position of authority amongst your peers. And over time, people will see this happening consistently, and your social status will grow higher.

When you combine these four factors, you can powerfully attract any woman you choose. (And the best part is – none of it depends on your looks!)

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(this is a continuation of part 1 of this article)

I’m sure you’ve run into the type that believe that if you “can’t say anything nice, don’t say it at all” or others who can’t deal with conflict. They can’t seem to get the idea that it’s not an ideal world out there. Or they must be living on a different one, with no problems, no wars, no issues.

Only on this planet will you be able to find that everyone is willing to give you the moral support you need.

But that’s the crux of the issue right there. All you “Nice Guys” have a losing mentality about your need for support. Your methodology is: “I am so loving and giving and nice, I expect you to treat me the exact same way as I treat you!”

Here is the typical thought process of Nice Guys:

–”Don’t disagree with me! It’s not fair because I do so much for you!!!”

–”Please be sympathetic and comfort me when I’m upset! I’m needy and can’t comfort myself.”

–”Always be in a good mood. I am always trying to make you happy and if I can’t, I feel ashamed and mad at you!”

–”You have to pay attention to me, after all I’ve done for you!!! I’ve earned it!!!”

–”You have to take care of me!!!! Do for me what I’m afraid to do!!! I do that for you, you know!!!”

Ponder what is written above. If someone actually said ANY of that to you, how would YOU feel about it? I’d hightail it away from that person. And that is EXACTLY what women do when it comes to “Nice Guys”.

Once that happens and the needy demands of “Nice Guys” go unmet, they fall into the deep pits of self-pity and depression. They also feel a lot of shame and anger at their failure to please the women they want, and though these “Nice Guys” can keep their pleasant demeanor up for a long time, their resentment of the women they want to please will grow and grow until it explodes in anger and rage, either directed at others, themselves, or both.

This kind of mentality can extremely damage your self respect and cause others to not want to be around you.

So what’s a “Nice Guy” to do?

If you want to have success with women, you need to stop being agreeable and instead be straightforward and honest, especially when you have to go against the wishes of others and disappoint them. You can do this with kindness and sensitivity, but you MUST do this nonetheless.

Only by being honest, with yourself and with others, will you be able to overcome the selfish “nice guy” habits you have adopted in your life.

And when you do this, you will stop caring about what other people think of you because the source of your validation comes from the fact that you’re being true to yourself and straightforward with others, and you will cease to harbor resentment and anger, and have more self respect and less depression.

From what I’ve seen, this is the only way to let go of the “Nice Guy” and become a man who commands respect.

Being honest with others in this manner might seem difficult, but it’s more rewarding than any other behavior you can adopt.

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