Breakup Advice: What Exactly Is Closure?
The word on the street is that you can\’t go forward until there is closure of the old relationship. So is closure a must? I feel the answer is unique to each individual. Some people never really achieve what is viewed as closure and can still go on to have successful relationships.
What is closure anyway? Is it that ah-ha moment when you can let go of the past and have forgiveness? And is it absolutely necessary to be able to date again? Lets see:
A Comparison Between Dating & Relationships
There a missing factor when dating, there is no emotional commitment. There might be feelings like nervousness and attraction but that\’s about it. Dating is kind of like practice so there really isn\’t any closure required.
When comparing dating to a relationship it\’s like comparing a ride in a canoe to one on a cruise ship. There is a whole lot more to a relationship especially when you have 100% of your love, your dreams and your future plans involved.
We have so much invested in a relationship, and the closure process comes in the form of getting back the control of our love, our dreams and or future visions. Until we have command of these emotions we will find it very difficult to start the process of a successful future with someone new.
This Is The Frustrating Part
Lets just say you find another, they have the looks that you like, they are funny, they have manners and they smell good. What sucks is if you are not in control of your feelings from your last relationship this new one doesn\’t have a chance.
This might not be what you want to hear but you should really hold off pursuing a relationship until you can be OK without having your ex in your life. Until you can move on without them refrain from getting into any relationship.
If you are not yet ready for a relationship does that mean you shouldn\’t date? No, studies have shown that dating can speed up the act of getting your heart, your hopes and your dreams back.
Take Them Back, They\’re Yours
Here\’s the deal: when it comes to dating, closure after a breakup isn\’t a necessity BUT closure is if you want to build a successful relationship. So if lasting relationship after a breakup is what you want, then it is well worth your time to practice some emotional wellness. Otherwise it is not fair to you or the other person, know matter what they smell like.
Is it scary to take back your emotions? Yes. Is it worth the hard work? Yes, as long as you are looking at the big picture. The one where your happiness is involved.
There are times when it\’s not the right answer to seek closure and move on. If you\’re still in love with your ex you don\’t have to move on until you\’re ready to. You can get your ex back I can show you how. The Make Up Plan



